【Law of Attraction/Mirroring, Manifestation, Metaphysics】

  • Reality is multidimensional in nature. Physical dimension is only a part of the full picture. Most of the reality is non-physical.
  • The law of attraction, or the law of mirroring, is the primary governing law of this time space reality we are living in. To summarise, the law of attraction is an observable law which dictates that the vibrations a being holds are mirrored in their reality.
  • Thought when focused on enough becomes thought form and then physical form. We are all thoughts which think (create).
  • Thought creates. Emotions inform. Matter experiences. Life forms are thoughts that think. Source thinks a thought, and with enough focus, it manifests as physical form and is able to exercise its free will to create and to be ‘out of alignment’.
  • Thoughts give rise to emotions. Emotions indicate whether the thought you’re thinking/perceiving is in alignment with your eternal self. Emotional pain is the pain of separation from the non-physical eternal self. The larger the gap between your physical temporal self and your non-physical eternal self, the stronger the emotional pain. Emotions are the guidance system we are born with, and it’s meant to be used to navigate physical life.
  • Physical manifestation starts in the non-physical. It starts with thoughts, and our emotions reflect what we are actually in the process of manifesting (mostly thoughts we are subconsciously thinking/perceiving/identified with/paying attention to/feeding energy to), and if nothing changes (we don’t change the thoughts we think), we eventually experience the physical manifestation of our thoughts which can be joyful or painful.
  • Your manifested physical reality is an accurate reflection of your current dominant vibrations because physical manifestations are thoughts (which dictate your vibrations) in condensed form.
  • How future works: we are a vibrational match to multiple different life path potentials based on our current vibrations. So if we change our vibrations now, our future will change accordingly.
  • Conscious creation is: 1. Becoming aware of the law of attraction and using it to our benefit. 2. Fusion of positive focus and shadow work. 3. Fusion of unconditional still presence and deliberate creation. 4. Creating from the space of free will instead of determinism.
  • Manifestation, Fragmentation & Free Will: Every fragment/part within us is a separate point of free will manifesting all the time, and they’re not always in alignment with each other, therefore our life is a mixture of positive and negative manifestations.
  • Why your conscious desires haven’t manifested yet: Splits in commitment/creative energy, in other words, misalignment and conflicts between our internal parts, prevent full physical manifestations of our desires.
  • Fear makes a person not a vibrational match to multidimensional awareness and higher objective truths. It locks you in survival mode and physicality. Through the process of socialisation, people are traumatised more and more, and eventually vibrate out of the range where we can directly access non-physical awareness and realities.
  • We don’t just think thoughts. We also PERCEIVE thoughts. Thought is a sense, too! Thoughts are absolutely everywhere in the quantum field, and not just modern thoughts, ancient thoughts, too. That’s why we walk into a room and immediately FEEL the energy in the room. This is not a conscious controllable cognitive function. In the psychology community, this is called neuroception. In the spiritual community, this is called intuition.
  • How to discern intuition and projection: Treat the information as projection first, work through it (feeling and questioning it), if the information stays the same, it is intuition.

【Trauma and Fragmentation, Healing and Integration】

  • Consciousness, otherwise known as soul or personality, functions more like water and electricity. It can split and fragment itself into multiple streams, and we call them ‘parts’. Unconscious consciousness fragmentation is the primary coping mechanism human beings use to deal with unresolved trauma, especially childhood trauma. Trauma causes and intensifies consciousness fragmentation.
  • Trauma is distress without resolution. Every human walking the planet today has experienced trauma. Even best parents on earth today can’t prevent trauma because human society is too unhealthy, and ancestral trauma, or intergenerational trauma, is a reality. Everyone is born with inherited trauma.
  • Relational trauma is by far the majority of the trauma we are integrating because physical humans are a relationally dependent group species, and currently our human relationships with each other are profoundly dysfunctional.
  • What sets re-experiencing apart from retraumatisation is free will/conscious consent. Consciously choosing to experience trauma again with the intention to heal and integrate is VERY different from retraumatisation. One is empowering, and the other is disempowering.
  • We dissociate in the moment of trauma, and we experience triggers afterwards because of it. Dissociation is the cause of PTSD, not the symptom. Triggers exist to call us back to integrate our trauma. Parts of our consciousness stay frozen in time in the moment of trauma.
  • Pain can be thought of ‘pay attention, integrate now’. Pain is not our enemy. Suffering is chronic resistance to pain. Pain itself isn’t suffering.
  • Integration is the antidote to human suffering on both the individual and collective levels. To integrate is to love. To integrate is to understand. To integrate is to relate and therefore have compassion for.
  • To love is to include someone or something as part of oneself. It is to actualise oneness.
  • There’s a great difference between healing and coping. To heal is to experience the opposite, and it implies creating actual change in the situation that’s causing us pain. To cope is to adapt to painful situations where we are powerless to create actual change to eliminate the stressors. In short, to heal is to change, and to cope is to adapt. Both healing and coping are necessary in the process of recovery from trauma. We just need to know what we are actually doing. Are we healing? Or are we coping? Don’t mistake coping as healing. Stop coping when healing is possible and needed.
  • Pendulum swing is not healing. It is to experience the opposite expression of the same dysfunction.
  • Three Pillars of Integration: Shadow Work, Parts Work, and Inner Child Work.
  • Trauma resolution/integration modality recommendations: Completion Process, Somatic Experiencing, TRE, Voice Dialogue, IFS, Hakomi etc. (various modalities of parts work and somatic therapy)
  • It is the safe secure relationship we develop with a therapist/practitioner/friends/partner that brings the most amount of healing. Relational trauma needs to heal in the context of relationships. Healing on our own can only do so much.
  • How Trauma Leads to Values: Trauma —> Unsafety/Vulnerability —> Needs —> Values
  • There are actual solutions to our problems most of the time, but we can’t access them because the shadows of human ego stand in the way. That’s why integration of human shadows should be the top priority if we want real progress in human society. Human shadows cause us to repeat painful patterns on individual and collective levels.
  • Healing can be approached in two directions. We deal with the issues/patterns in the present by making different choices and taking different actions, or we go back in time to create resolution in the original memories. In both ways, we gain awareness of WHY we suffer and what we NEED to move forward.

【Major Splits To Integrate】

  • Conscious vs. Unconscious
  • Good vs. Evil (Bad)
  • Freedom/Autonomy/Safety vs. Connection
  • Success (Loneliness) vs. Intimacy
  • Commitment/Security vs. Growth/Expansion (Catch up effect)
  • Healing vs. Coping (Real Change vs. Adaptation)
  • Feminine vs. Masculine
  • Uncertainty vs. Certainty
  • Growth/Adventure (Exploration of The Unknown) vs. Stability/Security (Familiarity/Comfort Zone)
  • What you think you want and need vs. What you really want and need (Releasing resistance to your true joy)

【Relationships】

  • Life is nothing but relationships. To create healthy happy relationships externally, we need to create them internally. This applies to both individuals and the collective. The survival of humanity is dependent upon us learning how to have healthy relationships in fact.
  • Trust is defined as the ability to rely on someone or something to capitalise/maximise our best interests.
  • Love and trust are two pillars of healthy relationships. It’s a lifelong practice. It’s the practice to end zero sum game within ourselves and with each other. It’s the practice to find and/or create win-win solutions to conflicts instead of fighting for self preservation at all costs.
  • Personal boundaries, simply put, are the definition of self. Anything that defines you, is part of your personal boundaries, your sense of self.
  • Authenticity is the foundation for evaluation of compatibility and commitment. There’s no way for a relationship to work if authenticity is not prioritised by all parties involved.
  • Love is not enough. Relationships need compatibility and commitment to work.
  • Incompatibility doesn’t mean the end of relationships if we commit to awareness, transitioning and reconfiguring our relationships.
  • Narcissism is defined as the condition of being stuck in an egocentric, disconnected and separate perceptual reality and incapable of perceiving and including others as part of themselves. In other words, narcissism is the inability to form genuine connection, intimacy and unity. It is a profoundly separate and lonely state. Narcissists and codependents are both narcissistic; one is direct/overt, and the other is indirect/covert. The painful symptoms of narcissism are all symptoms of perceptual separation. Separation is the root of pain, and the only type of pain.
  • Codependents are not ‘selfless’. Codependents just suppress, disown and abandon themselves in order to stay safe and get their needs met.
  • Genuine selflessness doesn’t exist. There’s only self-centredness disguised as selflessness, which can be dangerous to both the giver and the receiver of the ‘selfless’ giving.
  • Human ego’s strongest attachment is the attachment to goodness. Self abuse, the abuse of others, murder, genocide and war etc. are all justified by the belief that doing so makes someone good.
  • Value is based on subjective needs. Find your own unique talents and strengths (your excellence) and gravitate towards people and careers that need your excellence if you want to be and feel valued as you.
  • Humans form social groups, and the social groups we form mirror the first social group we encounter in life, which is family. Understanding family systems is the key to understand any human social group.
  • True belonging is found in compatibility and commitment, not conformity and being blood-related. True belonging feels secure and liberating. You can have yourself and have others at the same time.
  • Intentional community is necessary for human well-being. The majority of human suffering is caused by the lack of connection and support. We need to live and work in tribes.
  • True abundance includes relationship abundance. Having healthy nourishing relationships with ourselves and people naturally leads to financial abundance. Wealth is NEVER achieved alone. Independence is an illusion.
  • Polyamory is part of our human nature. Our love is not restricted to one human being. We love our friends, family and neighbours, and we love our colleagues and clients. Committing to polyamory is committing to constant communication with all parties involved in order to stay on the same page. This applies to romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships and work relationships etc.
  • Life partnership isn’t always romantic. Platonic life partnership exists too, and many people actually want that. Our societal structure needs to change in order to meet people’s actual needs. Marriage as the only basic unit of family is outdated.
  • SO many human problems are the byproduct of lack of support. We are not messed up. We are not crazy. We are not weak. We just have lots of unmet needs.
  • Love, care, appreciation, attraction and attachment are highly enmeshed concepts, but they are distinctly different. They can exist separately and/or simultaneously.
  • Develop an abundance mindset with meeting needs. One of the key solutions to relationship dissatisfaction is learning how to resource. No one single person can meet all of your needs. Be honest if you don’t want to meet certain needs, and help the other person find different ways to meet their needs.

【Emotions, Purpose, Self Awareness】

  • Gaslighting is defined as your subjective perceptual reality being negated and invalidated. Gaslighting is being told your reality isn’t your reality. Gaslighting is being told your reality doesn’t exist. And gaslighting is a spectrum. Until we become fully integrated and therefore authentic, we will always be unintentionally gaslit by ourselves, each other and society.
  • Genuine empowerment is built on truth and reality. Genuine healing is built on truth and reality. Illusion may give you relief, but truth and reality will set you free.
  • It is possible to have a solid core and solid perspective AND be open to change and be flexible at the same time. This state of consciousness is confident curiosity. This is a state of joyful learning.
  • Commitment is what brings about any manifestation. Commitment to life is required if you want to create a healthy fulfilling life on planet Earth. And commitment to life is commitment to healing and expansion.
  • Freedom is not a state of avoidance. Freedom is a state of commitment to one’s genuine desires, and commitment entails responsibility and discipline.
  • Responsibility doesn’t suffocate you if responsibility is chosen by you and in alignment with your true desires and innate excellence.
  • Toxic discipline is achieving results through forcing and bulldozing ourselves. Healthy discipline is achieving results through internal alignment, resolving internal resistance to stay focused and committed. Discipline is only worth it if it’s in alignment with our true desires.
  • Procrastination is always an indication of the presence of internal resistance and internal splits. Don’t force yourself to not procrastinate. Practise resolving internal conflicts instead.
  • Free will is only accessible to us once we commit to awareness and trauma integration. Until we start healing our childhood trauma, our lives are operated according to determinism, determined by the past trauma we experienced.
  • Parenting can be a life-changing spiritual practice for individuals and societies. Transformation in humanity on the most fundamental level will come as a result of mass consciousness shift relative to parenting.
  • Self-directed learning is the future of education. It is the most natural state of being for children and adults.
  • Emotions are physical sensations plus meanings. Emotions are the carrier of personal truths. Emotions are the reflection of the gap between our temporal self and our eternal self. Emotions are the internal compass that guides us through life.
  • ALL emotions are valid and important. Our internal guidance system can only be fully functional if we allow all emotions to exist, feel through them and understand them as deeply as possible. Trauma integration is necessary to restore the integrity and functionality of our internal guidance system.
  • Following your joy will always lead you to your life purpose. The tricky part is not to confuse conditioning with true joy. Not all positive emotions mean you are heading in the direction of your purpose. Follow your joy consciously, not blindly without any self enquiry.
  • Fear, shame and guilt in their disconnected form are three primary ingredients in dysfunctional relationships. They all enhance separation internally and externally. Integrate them, understand them, love them, take care of them… So they cease to be reasons for your suffering.
  • Pain and suffering are different. Pain won’t turn into suffering if we stop resisting pain, allow ourselves to feel through pain and learn from our pain. Pain exists FOR us. Pain is our ally.
  • Prioritisation becomes easy when we are deeply aware of and committed to our core values.
  • Desire is an integral part of existence. Desire doesn’t cause suffering. Resistance to desire does.
  • Balance is not the way to create peace and harmony. Balance perpetuates the status quo. Balance upholds polarities and separation. Balance helps with coping, not healing. Replace balance with integration.
  • Work-life balance is a myth. The lasting way forward is to treat yourself and your life as an ecosystem. Understand different parts of yourself and your life. Harmonise different sectors of your life. Quality shift is what matters, not quantity.
  • Freedom requires discipline. Discipline is a state of CHOICE relative to how we use our personal energy/how we live our lives. The opposite of discipline isn’t bulldozing. The opposite of discipline is determinism/lack of conscious choice/being at the mercy of your mind, body, emotions and inner parts.
  • Freedom is found in consciously choosing consequences. Introducing choice enhances personal empowerment.
  • If we want to achieve freedom from endless shame and guilt, we must consciously examine and question the standards and values we hold, especially the unconscious ones.
  • If we are ONLY willing to express our truths if there is no negative consequences, we are choosing a life of perpetual avoidance, suppression and no freedom.
  • You find people who value and prioritise self awareness, communication and receiving feedback succeed much more. Self awareness and communication are dependent on the capacity to receive and understand feedback. The skill of receiving and understanding feedback is required for success in work and relationships.